What was intriguing for me was the interplay between #3 and 4. Only each person can know if in #3 they are playing it safe, or if they are truly being a safe person deeply listening so they can hold others' views with them. Externally these look the same, but internally, they're completely different.
This is where #4 comes in. If you don't need to convince anyone of anything, then you can truly hold their opinions without defensiveness or anxiety, and with integrity and honesty–you genuinely don't feel those things because you're secure. But if you do feel defensive or anxious and it sucks you into trying to convince others your'e right, then you've become the opposite of playing it safe (in #3)...but in both cases the trigger was the same: you felt threatened.
To complicate matters, being honest doesn't necessarily require you to say a word. Which brings us back full circle to my first point, that externally, honesty and dishonesty can look the same, but it's the heart and sense of security (or lack thereof) that determines the difference.
Yo! It truly means so much to me that you really analyze the things I write about and process them with me! That means the world to me. Yeah I think all of these mindsets have some really interesting commentary on each other and really paint a cool picture as a whole. The full episode is really worth listening to if you have time!
Number 5, sharing your purpose is so good. I have recently been sharing my pet project with friends, and seeing them light up hearing about it has been amazing. What is really cool though, is they then share their purpose with me and we both grow!
What was intriguing for me was the interplay between #3 and 4. Only each person can know if in #3 they are playing it safe, or if they are truly being a safe person deeply listening so they can hold others' views with them. Externally these look the same, but internally, they're completely different.
This is where #4 comes in. If you don't need to convince anyone of anything, then you can truly hold their opinions without defensiveness or anxiety, and with integrity and honesty–you genuinely don't feel those things because you're secure. But if you do feel defensive or anxious and it sucks you into trying to convince others your'e right, then you've become the opposite of playing it safe (in #3)...but in both cases the trigger was the same: you felt threatened.
To complicate matters, being honest doesn't necessarily require you to say a word. Which brings us back full circle to my first point, that externally, honesty and dishonesty can look the same, but it's the heart and sense of security (or lack thereof) that determines the difference.
Thanks for giving me much to mull over tonight!
Yo! It truly means so much to me that you really analyze the things I write about and process them with me! That means the world to me. Yeah I think all of these mindsets have some really interesting commentary on each other and really paint a cool picture as a whole. The full episode is really worth listening to if you have time!
Wow these are incredible, thanks for sharing
You’re welcome! Thanks for reading!
Number 5, sharing your purpose is so good. I have recently been sharing my pet project with friends, and seeing them light up hearing about it has been amazing. What is really cool though, is they then share their purpose with me and we both grow!
Those guys form Charisma on Command are amazing - the videos helped me a lot and are well made. Nice post!